Gaslighting... November 2nd, 2022.
Food for thought. In general I’m a positive, optimistic, upbeat person. However I’ve been through more than a fair share of grief and losses for one individual, over the last two years. This is why I’m seeking professional help and why I’ve been to support groups, so I may begin to feel like myself again.
Adding to say, gaslighting someone to say they should be feeling better, is not helpful, and that is why I'm sharing this.
From Oyla Magazine.
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The Pollyanna Principle: Why "Looking on the Bright Side" Doesn't Always Work
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In 1978, psychologists Margaret W. Matlin and David J. Stang described the Pollyanna principle, named after the novel by the American writer Eleanor H. Porter, whose protagonist always managed to find the good in any situation.
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According to the Pollyanna principle, the brain processes positive information better than negative information. Therefore, we tend to remember the past more positively than it actually was — in other words, we are "positively biased." This can compel us to reconnect with an ex-partner, for example. Over time, we start to focus on the pleasant memories rather than the quarrels and misunderstandings that led to the breakup. However, this principle may not always be applicable.
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In contrast, people living with depression or anxiety tend to be negatively biased: their brains can be better at recalling bad events while discarding the good ones. This is why the advice to "just cheer up" won't be very helpful: sometimes, we need professional help to start feeling better.
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